You Are Who You Are

Hi all,

We are all individuals and we all dress, act and sound different when we talk, but this is no reason to try and make every one of us the same, we can’t all be the same because that would be impossible.

I know for a fact that when I was at school I used to get bullied for being overweight, Lesbian and being a tomboy as well, none of the teachers used to help me at all, apart from the Drama teacher, she helped me more than she knew by making sure that I had a main role to play within the classroom, I went from being the shy, overweight, lesbian girl, to the girl  that was directing the whole class in almost like a freeze frame situation, I had no idea what I was doing and she loved it because she was getting me to have a voice within the classroom and encourage me to be more opinionated and to be more outspoken like she knew that I could be.

My point is, is that everyone develops at different speeds, you can either speed up and get to where you want to be with your personality straight away, or like I was it can take a while before you get to where you want to be with your personality, but none of this means that you should be singled out a ridiculed for this because you are who you are, even at a young age whilst you’re still in school. No one can tell you what to be or what not to be, this is up to you and later on, you will find you you are meant to be and then that when your personality will blossom.



Being Me

Hi All,

Firstly I just wanted to say thank you all for liking and sharing my different blog posts, I am extremely grateful because this to me means a lot because I like to think that by me doing these different blog posts that I am helping some of you get through many challenging times of your lives.

Also I would like to add that if any of you would like to chat to me or anything like that I could do a Facebook live from my Facebook page, if any of you are interested in that just leave a comment below and get back to me, I am also open to the idea of doing an ‘Ask Jem’ session on my twitter feed, this is all so that I can get to know the readers of my blog better.

I would just like to inform you all of a little bit about me, I am just an ordinary person that likes to make a difference to other peoples lives by helping them out as much as possible and trying to make a gradual difference. This is why I attend the different Pride festivals up and down the country because I like to see the many different people that attend the pride festival, I like the fact that those festivals bring people together and let them socialise with other people and let them realise that they aren’t on their own.

Also could you please leave some feedback on my blog, because I would like to know what you would like me to do a post about next, I am always on the look out for more and more ideas.




Family Days

Hi All,

You may ask throughout your life whilst you move along throughout the years of why is family so important? You may also take certain family members for granted without even realising it.

It is one of the best times for me when I have family down to stay over because me, Mum and them always have a laugh, it doesn’t have to be anything particularly stupid either that we are doing that makes us laugh, a lot of the time it’s just us together doing things that make us laugh, like one of my Aunts cutting a tree into thirds (wine did fuel this) so that mum can fit it into the gardening recycling bin outside.

The Family unit means a lot, for example when I was going through a court case after having been abused myself, it was my Aunty that came along and supported me whilst that was going on so that I always had someone there to support me when things got tough and when the court case got emotional. The point here is that family will always be there when times get hard, both to comfort and protect their other family members from harm.

However, all of this isn’t to mean that some family members can be difficult, I think we all know that some people can be difficult even when they are family. Some family members don’t have to accept other family members and this can be down to both sexuality and race of the other family members as well.

Over the years I have come to realise that Family or the idea of Family means a lot, because life is so short and particularly when a family member becomes just that bit older, I start to become scared just in case that day comes when I don’t get to see them again sooner than expected, because sometimes it does and then you look back on the times spent with them and start to realise just how much that time that you spent with them meant at the time.



My Role Models

Hi all,

We all have those friends that we keep close to us and the celebrities that we watch on TV, but how many of those people do you class as Role Models when they probably should be, perhaps you admire them for something or perhaps you look up to them, well any of those things mean that they are your Role Model for one reason or another, which means that they are a type of person who you aspire to be.

I myself have got many Role Models for many different reasons, one, of course being my Mum after my Dad passed she had to be both a Mum and a Dad to me and she is fantastic at both, I don’t know where I would be without her now, to be honest.

Another set of Role Models really (although I wouldn’t tell them this) would be my four friends, the people that I turn to when I need them, things have happened in the past which caused us to separate for a while, but now we are all back together and I honestly don’t know where I would be without them. Even though sometimes they do get on my nerves, they are like family whenever I need advice and sometimes advice that I need to listen to, although I’m not particularly keen on listening to and I could do with taking more notice of them and the advice they give.

Then there’s my two Aunties, who I love dearly one is a computer geek (or so she thinks) then the other Aunt works for different airlines organising flights for different businesses to different parts of the world. Both of my aunties inspire me greatly because they a both strong and independent women having both been through numerous things in their lives, although I admire them both for this and still carrying on the way that they both are today.

The long and short of the story is that everyone has got Role Models and you don’t even have to be close to the person for them to be considered a Role Model to you. Yes, the Role Models that I have described are family to me, but you can have different celebrity Role Models as well and these are just celebrities that you look up to for maybe just having the same beliefs and outlooks on life as you.





My Pride Day

Hi all,

So I go on about LGBT Pride on this blog quite a bit, and I wanted to share with you an account of my day at a Pride festival the other day on the 29th of July. On this particular day myself and one of my best friends decided to go to our local LGBT Pride, we went a couple of years ago, but I didn’t go last year because unfortunately, I was ill on the day and couldn’t go. Although this year, I must admit I really really wanted to go, so I had decided way back in January that I was going this year and nothing was going to stop me.

So me and my best friend decided to go to Norwich pride, as this one is the only one near to us, so we got up bright and early and headed off into Norwich for about 11:00 am, which was just in time to see all of the different charity stalls and have a drink before the march started at 1:00 in the afternoon. I had forgotten what an incredible atmosphere it was to be involved in and to walk around all the stalls and see everyone in the city smiling and dressed in rainbows, these are the days that I will NEVER forget, as they mean something to everyone who is there during the day and taking part in the march.

Also, another thing about Norwich pride is that it is a free event so there are collection buckets scattered around during the day for people to donate money to the Norwich pride committee who are in charge of organising such a special day for the city. The march was absolutely incredible, the fact that lots of different LGBT people had gathered together to march through the gorgeous city of Norwich was absolutely outstanding in was fantastic! There were people waving pride flags, blowing whistles and not forgetting I could hear the sound of samba drums in the background.

Furthermore, the most important thing is that there were people there of all different ages and then there were families there with their children as well, that I really loved to see, but that’s how different Pride festivals should be because it shows people it is ok to be yourself and that you are not alone for being yourself.

That’s why pride to me is so important because it brings everyone together and also makes people realise that equality is a thing that is important to many different people, not just people of different sexual orientations, but people of different race and disabilities too!! That’s why this year it was important to celebrate the 50 years of homosexuality decriminalization, because it is the LGBT people who lived during that era that paved the way for us for equal rights now, because they were brave back then so now it’s our turn to do our bit for what we believe in!

I know I have ranted on in this blog, but it is something that is very important to me, but I will include some pic of last weekend to show what it was really like!

But if you have any comments or anything that you would like to add, don’t be afraid to leave a comment in the comments box below!

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50 Years of Decriminalisation

Hi, I realise it’s been a while since I last wrote a blog for you all to read, but I thought I would write a blog about marking the 50 years of homosexuality decriminalization within the UK. This is such an important milestone for every LGBT person living in Britain, because without this law being passed, then nothing else would have been possible for LGBT people to achieve.

For example before the law came into action LGBT people used to live in fear within the UK, they weren’t allowed to love the person that they wanted to love, this in itself was a crime towards LGBT people within Britain. For LGBT people living in Britain before this law was enacted means that they weren’t allowed to walk down the street hand in hand and, in some respects if someone was even suspected of being Gay then they were ‘outed’ in the local paper named as people who others should watch out for, because they might get hurt.

But look around and have a look how things have changed, there are now Pride festivals in most cities in the UK which are now used also as a political movement and to show young LGBT people that it is ok to be yourself and that people will accept you for who you are. However, this doesn’t mean that coming out is easy but there are many different websites that are now out there for young people to get help and tips for how to come out to your loved ones and the ones that you hold close to you.

This is why this year should be celebrated and marked in a way that can never be forgotten, because without LGBT people speaking out in the past, then LGBT people may not have been given the freedom that is loved by many LGBT people now that the different laws have changed.

Below comment on the different laws that have changed that have benefited you in some way, in order to try to start a discussion as this page should be almost like a community for many people to be able to chat to and get to know other people.

Alan Turing
Alan Turing who was prosecuted for gross indecency.




Why Pride?

Hi People,

So this post is a lot different from one that I would normally do, and this is because it is a question that gets asked either a lot on social media or over YouTube whenever someone who is gay chooses to do a Q and A with their followers, so I thought that I should voice my own opinion on this matter.

This year Pride is more important than ever it has now been 50 years since homosexuality was decriminalised in the UK, therefore LGBT+ people can now be themselves and even get married within the UK. However 50 years ago things were very different, LGBT couples couldn’t walk down the streets hand in hand, nor could they even dream of getting married one day, this has now all changed but back then it was seen as a taboo and could get you arrested for public indecency, so LGBT people lived their lives as a lie so to speak because they couldn’t be true to who they were because of the laws.

The case of the way things were within the UK 50 years ago still exists today within some countries across the globe, people still get killed for being gay in some countries and in other countries it’s almost like a manhunt if you are even suspected of being gay they try to hunt you down.

This to me is why we still need Pride in this country, not just to support LGBT people in the UK but elsewhere in the world, where being LGBT is like living a prison sentence, because of how they are treated and how they are made to feel by their government. So Pride today exists still very much as a political event, but even more so as a celebration for how far our laws within the UK have changed towards LGBT people.

Please voice your opinions as well in the comments below, as I would love to hear what you also have to say on Pride.

That’s all for now

Happy Pride



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International Day in Support of Victims of Torture

Hi All,

You may not know it, but today is International Day in Support of Victims of Torture, this was originally celebrated in order to totally eradicate the idea of torture altogether on the 12th of December 1997 and this day also stands against other inhumane treatment that people shouldn’t have to go through.

This day is also where people are remembered for some of the most terrible things that they have been through in their lives. This event this year to me is now more important than ever, due to the recent events that have taken place, in Manchester and of course more recently London, even though these events were dealt with what happened whilst the events were taking place could be deemed as torture for the many victims that have been effected.

Also people have suffered torture throughout history, suffering some of the most brutal punishments for crimes that were committed that we now no longer see as crimes, an example of this would be what Alan Turing went through, even though some of the work that he did saved us during the war, this didn’t seem to count for anything once it had been discovered that he was gay and then he was sentenced to chemical castration, before he committed suicide by cyanide poisoning. It was years after his death in 1954 that he finally received a pardon from the Prime Minister (Gordon Brown) in 2013 for the act of sexual indecency that he apparently committed. To me when someone does work to save the country(as he did) this shouldn’t have mattered to anyone wha he was doing behind closed doors, but of course it did and now thankfully his work lives on and still continues to this day within the different computer systems that we use on a day-to-day basis.

Different forms of torture still occurs even now across the globe and it is so important that we remember that whilst we may be in countries that are fortunate to have the things that we have around us, some people haven’t got the things that we take for granted in our country. To them our country would seem marvellous because they wouldn’t be able to even begin to comprehend what we’ve got over here in our countries.

Please as usual if you have got any more opinions on this subject or if you just want to share more details below in the comments, please feel free!



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Happy 20 Years of Potter!

Hi All,

So it would only be right if I did this post to mark a special birthday today and that is 20 years since the Philosophers Stone has been released to us awaiting Potterheads. I can’t believe how much Harry Potter now means to all of us in a way, it sends out a message that we all need to know from a young age, and that is the difference between good and evil, because as kids I know I did this, I thought everyone was decent and that no-one was a bad person. So this was a well-learnt lesson that Harry Potter taught most people who read the books and watched the films.

Also, the books and films encouraged families of all ages to read and watch the Harry Potter stories come to life, this then encouraged different people on world book days within schools to dress up as their favourite Harry Potter characters from both the books and the films. This was one of my favourite events throughout the year, because I loved to watch people come into the school world book day assembly wearing their favourite characters costume, it was fantastic seeing people walking into the hall with the same pride their character would have if they were to walk into the Great Hall of Hogwarts if they were in the books or the films.

Then not forgetting the Premiers and Book launches that the Harry Potter series gave us, people used to camp outside bookstores and they also used to camp in Leicester Square in London days before the actual premier used to take place, just so that then they could be among the first people to get a picture and an autograph with their favourite Potter star. This would give everyone a sense of achievement if they managed to get memorabilia like this from the premiere of the Harry Potter Series.

Furthermore, J.K Rowling used to do readings of her new book at the Natural History Museum in London for all her fans to go down and listen to her read a few pages from the latest Harry Potter book from the series. I used to sit and watch programs like Newsround that used to do a coverage of the reading for those people who couldn’t always make it to the readings of the different books.

I hope you lot have enjoyed this post today, please feel free to celebrate along with me today and post your favourite Potter moments in the comments below, let’s get our own community going through this blog!



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Moving Forward

Hi all,

So today I have decided to do a post all about moving forward, from having my friends and my personality taken away, by being manipulated. This then impacted me by me feeling isolated with almost no one around me when I needed them, however one of my remaining friends was actually supporting me through the whole process(along with a glass of wine or two) but my other friends that I had before all this began were pushed away. This all impacted me and made me feel alone and depressed.

But after all that I have now got my friends around me again and I truly do feel like I’m getting back to normal again, realising just how much I missed them from the start. I can now also say that I am not going to let anyone, no matter how important that they might seem at the time get in the way of me and my boys again or me and any of my friends come to think of it, I love them all far too much.

It was hard for me to realise that I was being manipulated to start off with because I thought I was happy and settled sown with someone, but now I can see just how much I was isolated from everyone in every way, I didn’t have the support there when I needed it the most and I missed having my friends around me and the bit of freedom that I had.

But now all that is over, I feel like I am getting back on track, I have recently passed my college course that I have been working on for the past 3 years and I am looking forward to carrying on with my study at the Open University for next year, working towards completing a teacher training course, I am so looking forward to doing that because it is all that I have wanted to do for the past god knows how many years. I love working with people and especially inspiring young people to do new subjects to hopefully guide them on the right path for them to start their career in when they leave education, that is one of my main reasons for wanting to be a teacher.

The future is looking bright for me, as it could for anyone, no matter how bad a situation might seem at the time, as one of my friends will always back me up by saying: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” and I do truly believe in that quote because it is true in every way.


Ok I feel like I have rambled on a bit today but I hope that I have inspired you that when something goes wrong to rely on the people around you and try however hard it might be, to dust yourself down and try again. This is what I’ve had to do and I hope that you will be able to do that too. Let me know what you thought about this blog in the comments below and follow me on the social media links as well.