Music Therapy

Hi all,

So this one is a little more random, so I apologise for that, but I felt like I had to do this, and no it’s not a course of treatment that you can sign up for at the Doctor’s (although it probably should be) it’s something that I have used to help me through different stages of my life. That is mainly because music offers a sense of freedom that you don’t get from anything else, apart from reading, but the thing with music is that you can listen to it, whatever you are doing, whereas reading you have to take time out of what you are doing to pick up a book and read the book to get the freedom from life that you long for.

So this started when I was younger and my dad was going through his treatment, every morning I used to turn my music up in my room, as loud as it would go and I used to dance and sing to my new favourite track from either a film, band or artist that I was into at that time. I remember one of my favourite films that I used to play the soundtrack to a lot was Camp Rock, then I used to go from that to Cheryl Cole and then to perhaps McFly, this used to change dependant on how I was feeling at that particular moment or morning.

Now, I wish I could say that my habits have changed but really they haven’t, particularly when I came out I was listening to a lot of Gay artists from, Joe McElderry to Union J and I have not developed that to become huge fans of both, because even though the whole band of Union J aren’t Gay, I support the lead singer of Union J ‘Jaymi Hensley’ and he is Gay and has got all the Sass to go with it, he is a big inspiration to anyone that is Gay or are struggling to come out as Gay.

So basically whenever I am struggling with a life event that is difficult for me to deal with, I turn up the music as loud as it will go and I just dance and sing as loud as I can, to just get rid of the anxiety that clouds me at that particular time so when I struggle music is the thing that I turn to, when I am on my own and not surrounded by my friends.

So this is my way of coping, what’s yours? I would love to hear in the comments below.

That’s all from me for now.



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International Day in Support of Victims of Torture

Hi All,

You may not know it, but today is International Day in Support of Victims of Torture, this was originally celebrated in order to totally eradicate the idea of torture altogether on the 12th of December 1997 and this day also stands against other inhumane treatment that people shouldn’t have to go through.

This day is also where people are remembered for some of the most terrible things that they have been through in their lives. This event this year to me is now more important than ever, due to the recent events that have taken place, in Manchester and of course more recently London, even though these events were dealt with what happened whilst the events were taking place could be deemed as torture for the many victims that have been effected.

Also people have suffered torture throughout history, suffering some of the most brutal punishments for crimes that were committed that we now no longer see as crimes, an example of this would be what Alan Turing went through, even though some of the work that he did saved us during the war, this didn’t seem to count for anything once it had been discovered that he was gay and then he was sentenced to chemical castration, before he committed suicide by cyanide poisoning. It was years after his death in 1954 that he finally received a pardon from the Prime Minister (Gordon Brown) in 2013 for the act of sexual indecency that he apparently committed. To me when someone does work to save the country(as he did) this shouldn’t have mattered to anyone wha he was doing behind closed doors, but of course it did and now thankfully his work lives on and still continues to this day within the different computer systems that we use on a day-to-day basis.

Different forms of torture still occurs even now across the globe and it is so important that we remember that whilst we may be in countries that are fortunate to have the things that we have around us, some people haven’t got the things that we take for granted in our country. To them our country would seem marvellous because they wouldn’t be able to even begin to comprehend what we’ve got over here in our countries.

Please as usual if you have got any more opinions on this subject or if you just want to share more details below in the comments, please feel free!



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A Sense Of Achievement

Hi All,

I’ve just been sat thinking about how far I have actually come and what I have achieved along the way and how I can make my life better and I have just come to the conclusion that I have got fantastic friends and family around me so I don’t really need to make my life better anymore, because well as long as I like my life, why does it matter if someone else doesn’t?

I’ll start with Primary school, I was always the shy kid at the back of the class, who just had one best friend and that was it, didn’t really say a lot just got on with my work and left the speaking to the other people in the class. Although when the opportunity came along to get up on stage later in my Primary School years I embraced the opportunity and got up on stage. I was also the kid that stood up in the leaver’s assembly and said that I wanted to be a teacher haha, how right I was…

Next came the Secondary school process, yep I was still sat at the back of the class, however, I also started to get bullied from not being interested in the same things that the other girls in my class were interested in, I came out as gay as well and that didn’t particularly go down very well. My dad also sadly passed away as well, however after going through all that I still managed to escape that place with seven GCSE’s under my belt to help me into the college course that I wanted to go to.

Then finally it’s college time! My college days were a lot brighter than my schooling days were, my college days I participated in discussions within the classroom, I also got top marks in my level 3 courses, then I was able to progress to another college to complete my foundation degree courses, which I achieved a Merit within both of these!!

Now the next chapter is looking like, Open University to complete my degree and then following that a Teacher Training Course teaching Computer Science at Secondary School level!

Phew, it’s safe to say that the future is looking bright and I can’t wait to share my summer adventures with you all, including of course Pride Festivals and Holidays to various places!

That’s all for now



PS: Don’t forget to add comments in the box below on what you are most looking forward to within the next few months, I will look forward to reading and replying to them all!

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Happy 20 Years of Potter!

Hi All,

So it would only be right if I did this post to mark a special birthday today and that is 20 years since the Philosophers Stone has been released to us awaiting Potterheads. I can’t believe how much Harry Potter now means to all of us in a way, it sends out a message that we all need to know from a young age, and that is the difference between good and evil, because as kids I know I did this, I thought everyone was decent and that no-one was a bad person. So this was a well-learnt lesson that Harry Potter taught most people who read the books and watched the films.

Also, the books and films encouraged families of all ages to read and watch the Harry Potter stories come to life, this then encouraged different people on world book days within schools to dress up as their favourite Harry Potter characters from both the books and the films. This was one of my favourite events throughout the year, because I loved to watch people come into the school world book day assembly wearing their favourite characters costume, it was fantastic seeing people walking into the hall with the same pride their character would have if they were to walk into the Great Hall of Hogwarts if they were in the books or the films.

Then not forgetting the Premiers and Book launches that the Harry Potter series gave us, people used to camp outside bookstores and they also used to camp in Leicester Square in London days before the actual premier used to take place, just so that then they could be among the first people to get a picture and an autograph with their favourite Potter star. This would give everyone a sense of achievement if they managed to get memorabilia like this from the premiere of the Harry Potter Series.

Furthermore, J.K Rowling used to do readings of her new book at the Natural History Museum in London for all her fans to go down and listen to her read a few pages from the latest Harry Potter book from the series. I used to sit and watch programs like Newsround that used to do a coverage of the reading for those people who couldn’t always make it to the readings of the different books.

I hope you lot have enjoyed this post today, please feel free to celebrate along with me today and post your favourite Potter moments in the comments below, let’s get our own community going through this blog!



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Moving Forward

Hi all,

So today I have decided to do a post all about moving forward, from having my friends and my personality taken away, by being manipulated. This then impacted me by me feeling isolated with almost no one around me when I needed them, however one of my remaining friends was actually supporting me through the whole process(along with a glass of wine or two) but my other friends that I had before all this began were pushed away. This all impacted me and made me feel alone and depressed.

But after all that I have now got my friends around me again and I truly do feel like I’m getting back to normal again, realising just how much I missed them from the start. I can now also say that I am not going to let anyone, no matter how important that they might seem at the time get in the way of me and my boys again or me and any of my friends come to think of it, I love them all far too much.

It was hard for me to realise that I was being manipulated to start off with because I thought I was happy and settled sown with someone, but now I can see just how much I was isolated from everyone in every way, I didn’t have the support there when I needed it the most and I missed having my friends around me and the bit of freedom that I had.

But now all that is over, I feel like I am getting back on track, I have recently passed my college course that I have been working on for the past 3 years and I am looking forward to carrying on with my study at the Open University for next year, working towards completing a teacher training course, I am so looking forward to doing that because it is all that I have wanted to do for the past god knows how many years. I love working with people and especially inspiring young people to do new subjects to hopefully guide them on the right path for them to start their career in when they leave education, that is one of my main reasons for wanting to be a teacher.

The future is looking bright for me, as it could for anyone, no matter how bad a situation might seem at the time, as one of my friends will always back me up by saying: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” and I do truly believe in that quote because it is true in every way.


Ok I feel like I have rambled on a bit today but I hope that I have inspired you that when something goes wrong to rely on the people around you and try however hard it might be, to dust yourself down and try again. This is what I’ve had to do and I hope that you will be able to do that too. Let me know what you thought about this blog in the comments below and follow me on the social media links as well.



Apple Updates

Hi all,

As you all have probably guessed by now, being an Apple geek comes naturally to me in fact as I sit in my favourite chair in the living room I am typing this on my most treasured possession, my Apple Mac. One of the main reasons for my love of Apple are the updates that occur every once in a while, because these updates make it actually feel like you are holding a new mobile phone, which if you are an Apple geek you count down the days until the next update is released.

However, the release doesn’t come straight away, there’s normally a keynote first several weeks before the eventual release date, and this year was no exception talking about the new IOS features for the iPhones. Although this IOS is reported to be quite different from the previous IOS versions, Apple has again remained consistent with their naming conventions, because this IOS version is called IOS 11, so all the different IOS versions remain in a consecutive order to make it easier for users to be able to follow their update patterns.

The big update that comes with the latest IOS is the major improvement within the App store, this makes the App store look more organised much like the way in which the News app is designed and also the music application was redesigned to incorporate Apple Music for Apple’s many users. Apple seem like they are trying to make their products and software easier to use by making all of the apps look and feel more organised and fluid whilst the user is using them.

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The newly designed App Store

Also the lock screen and the different notifications that users receive from the different applications on their phone have now been combined into one screen, again making it much easier for the many users Apple has when they come to use their mobile phones or their iPad’s as well.

The Apple control centre has now also been redesigned to make the whole look of the control centre more customisable for the user, this is so that then whilst using the iPhone the user has a more personalised experience, because their phone down to a certain point won’t be the same as the people that they are sitting next to on the train or the bus or wherever for that matter. This could also be seen as Apple trying to make more changes to the usability of the iPhone or iPad, because people tend to find things easier to work if they are fully customised to them and the way that they work.

Another feature that has been updated within the IOS is the Messages app, one of the updates that has taken place with this is that there is a new app drawer, which contains more stickers that are able to be placed anywhere next to a message within the messages app. Next there is also a feature that lets contacts pay their contacts with Apple Pay within the app, this means that there is very little need for bank transfers these days like they used to be. In addition to this there is also iCloud for messages that’ll sync all of your messages across to all of your IOS devices across the home. Then there is the genius invention of a thumb type keyboard, this means that you will finally be able to type, just by using your thumb, the keyboard moves across closer to the thumb that they use to type with.

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Thumb type Keyboard

Furthermore, the maps app has been updated as well, now there is lane guidance within the App, as well as this if the user is within a well-known busy shopping centre, then the maps app has now also got indoor navigation as well, so this means that people won’t get lost going around shopping centres again. In addition to this, your phone will now also be able to check when you’re driving, therefor you’re not getting any notifications whilst you are driving, so there are no distractions.

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That’s about it for the IOS 11 update on the iPhone, although it is coming on the iPad as well but the changes to me don’t seem as big on the iPad.

As always comment in the box below with your favourite feature of IOS 11 and what you are most looking forward to with the new update.

That’s all for now, stay safe and take care






Pirates of the Caribbean: Salazars Revenge

Hi all, I know it’s been a while since I have written to you all, however I would ove to share this quick review with you all, as I absolutely love this film, this film is amazing. So the other week, I took mum to the cinema to see the last Pirates of the Caribbean film, we both like these films as it was one of my dads favourite film series to watch on TV, so it makes us feel closer to him, also the films are a bloody good laugh.

This film is quite dark in places because it opens where the son of William Turner is trying to save his dad from a curse at sea, then he needs something from Captain Jack Sparrow in order to be able to help save his dad, then they go in search of a missing artefact that can free pirates at sea who have had curses cast upon them. So naturally in pure pirates of the Carribean style they all go off together in search of this artefact, there is plenty of humour and action within this film in order to give everyone a proper laugh when the film starts. 

However dark this film maybe, it is still suitable for all the family as the humour from Captain Jack Sparrow dulls down all of the dark bits within the film, I have loved this film so much that I have seen it twice so far and I am eager to see it a third time. It’s been years since I’ve loved a film quite so much, but this film I love. 

I will include a clip of the trailer below this post so that then you too can see what I mean when I say it is a really amazing film. If you have also been to see this film, please don’t hesitate to comment within the box below what you also thought to the film as well.

Click here to watch the trailer

That’s all for now folks  

Jem xx

Mental Abuse

Hi all,

So this is a difficult one for me, I have been in many different and both difficult situations.

The first is one that I rarely open up about and this is where I was sexually abused when I was a teenager by my next door neighbour. He disguised himself as a family friend, but he used to blackmail me and say that I had to do something that he wanted like not put a DVD on or he would kiss me. This made me feel like I was constantly not doing anything right and at times it actually felt to me as though I was encouraging it. 

When this situation was finally reported, it felt to me as though I had got to accept being abused for many different reasons because there were times when I felt so disgusting and as though I was worthless. He was at the time in his 70’s and just the thought of it again even now makes me feel sick.

Another situation that I have been is is actually just recently when my partner actually controlled me to the extent of, I was separated from the people that I love and care for simply because she made it seem like the easiest thing to do, but only now do I see this is because she simply wanted me to herself. This again made me feel the worst that I have ever felt, also everything that I did she made me feel that I had done something wrong, I also couldn’t do some of the things that I loved to do. 

The first example of abuse that I have given was purely physical abuse and then the second was mental abuse. Abusers are often disguised as people who care for you and often people that you grow to like or even love.

If you have been affected by anything like this, please don’t suffer in silence you really really don’t need to.


Hi readers,

So today I thought I would do something a little different to what I’ve ever done before and that would be to talk about feelings. Feelings can be interpreted in many different ways, for instance when you are in a relationship, your feelings should be heard and you shouldn’t feel ashamed of voicing your true feelings to your partner if that is how you feel. If you find that you can’t voice your feelings to your partner whilst within a relationship, then take it from someone who knows you need to get out of that particular relationship before it is too late and you end up being miserable. 

Feelings are also really important to your friends and family, because they love and care for you and if there is something wrong, then very often they like to know about it so that then they too can help you or try to offer you help, in order so that they know how best to help the situation that you are in. An example of this is that in the past I haven’t told friends things that they need to know and this in turn has caused a breakdown of the relationship because of me not telling them something important, as a result of this, I have probably gone the other way and started sharing way too much information, but I’d rather that than not enough. 

Another thing is, is that sometimes you have got to be careful with who you trust with your feelings sometimes, because occasionally, you might say the wrong thing to the wrong person and then this is how rumours spread, for example when I was in secondary school, it got around the whole school that I was gay in not even half a day, just because I had told one of the girls from my class the previous night over Facebook messenger. Had I not done that and carried on trusting my two best friends I would have probably been ok, but then that subjected me to bullying and then leading to me becoming depressed because I felt that I couldn’t deal with the way that things were anymore. So it is really important that before you disclose your feelings to someone that you make sure that you can actually trust them first. 

Carrying on from this it is also important that whoever your partner or friends are that you make sure that you can always be yourself around them, because there is nothing worse than saying that you can stick by someone, when actually you can’t because you can’t be yourself around them, this is really important because you don’t what that person or people dragging you away from the people that you have already been around for most of your life, just because of the way that you feel about that particular person or people. 

LGBT Pride Month

Heya all,

I thought I would do a little post on the LGBT Pride Month, this pride month is to commemorate the Stonewall Riots. Although many people still don’t know why LGBT people still need a Pride festival all these years down the line, and yes of course I know the answer to that and this answer is very simple… it is to celebrate not being criminalised anymore for loving the people that they want to love, if fact this year (2017) we celebrate 50 years of homosexual decriminalization. So this year more than any other year the Pride festivals couldn’t be more relevant.

I can still remember going to my first Pride festival, I was scared and nervous because I didn’t know what to expect to be quite honest with you, although I must admit I thoroughly enjoyed it because everyone came together and joined in the massive parade that went around the city centre, everyone was laughing and smiling as well as singing along to whatever music was playing at the time. There were couples of Mums with their children dressed in rainbows and couples of Dads with their children dressed really smartly too, it was a pleasure to be part of it and to feel proud of the community that I belong to.

If this year or any year is your first pride festival, don’t be scared or nervous like I was, be happy and be prod to be part of our wonderful community. Also please feel free to share your Pride Festival memories in the comments below!!

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